25 of the most intimate emotional comfort techniques

 25 of the most intimate emotional comfort techniques

Psychological guide: When you are unhappy, it is normal to complain and vent occasionally, but complaining all the time will add to your troubles. How can you make yourself happier? The following provides 25 ways to comfort yourself, there is always one that suits you.

The first consolation: the most important thing is today's heart

Why lose your present mood because of painful regrets, why worry about inexplicable worries all day long. The past is gone forever, no matter how much you regret it, it will not help. The future is still elusive, no matter how much you worry, it will be empty and sad. Today's heart, today's events and present people are real and feel good . Of course, it is wise to sum up past experience and prevent future risks.

Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow has not come yet, today is real!

The second consolation: My heartache can only be healed by myself

Why bother to lose the present mood because of painful remorse, it is also very necessary to complain once in a while, but endless complaining will only add to your troubles, and it can only show your incompetence to others. Complaining is a fatal negative attitude. Once your own complaints become a bad habit, your life will be dark. Not only will you lose your good mood, but others will also be unlucky.

Complaining is no good, optimism is the most important thing.

The third consolation: a good mood is created by oneself

We often cannot change the opinions of others, but only ourselves. A bad life consists not in the sins of others, but in our bad moods. The golden key to make life better is not in the hands of others, let go of our resentment and sighs, and a better life is at your fingertips. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, but objectively, we don’t have a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives.

Don't expect to change others, be the master of your own life.

The fourth comfort: do what you should do with your heart

Life is so short, who would want to waste it? A wise philosopher once said: Someone scolded me on the street, I didn't even look back, I didn't want to know this boring person at all! We don't want to hurt others, and we don't want to be swayed by others' criticisms. We should follow our own wishes and learn the skills well first.

Especially when you are a teenager, you must go all out to learn your skills and don't be distracted.

The fifth consolation: don’t always make life difficult for yourself

Learning to appreciate yourself is equivalent to having the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not self-admiration, appreciating yourself is not self-esteem, appreciating yourself is not self-indulgence, appreciating yourself is not complacent... Give yourself some information, give yourself a little happiness , Give yourself a smile, why worry about not having the joy of life?

I often have to celebrate the festival for myself and learn to find a happy mood.

Sixth Consolation: Don't Chase Worldly Glory

If you look for the so-called things recognized by others all your life, you will lose your own happiness and happiness forever. Vulgar comments will smoke out one's personality, and secular advice will make one feel overwhelmed. Money for the sake of money will make you disown your relatives, power for the sake of power will make you bold and reckless, fame for the sake of fame will make you take advantage of others, and the real me will become fragments in the deliberate pursuit of the wind. The worldly me has become hideous.

If you get kitsch, you lose your authenticity, you must strengthen your confidence and have yourself.

The Seventh Consolation: Extremely Unacceptable

Some people often become insane because of excessive worry, while others are indifferent to everything because of their insensitivity. The former often suffers from the search for rationality, and declines because of being too clever, and the root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. In the end, I don't know what regret is, and I live in a daze all day long, and there is no difference between living and dying!

Going to extremes always fails miserably, looking for wisdom in life.

The eighth consolation: don't care too much about other people's evaluation

There is no painting that will not be evaluated by others, and no person will not be discussed by others. If I am silent, some people will accuse me of being "too deep in the city"; if I am good at talking, some people will accuse me of boasting;

Just looking at other people's faces, you can't live or not. You have yourself, but you are not limited by yourself.

The Ninth Consolation: The More Evil Thoughts, the Deeper the Pain

Why can't we live peacefully? The point is that the demons in the Heart Porcelain series were not exorcised in time. Because they have evil thoughts in their hearts, they will not restrain themselves rationally, and often do stupid things of regret. Because the dust of the mind is not cleaned in time, the weak-willed will fall into the deep pool from time to time. Because you are often obsessed with ghosts, you will be blinded by stupidity, and you will not know if you have entered the wrong fork.

If you have evil in your heart, you will feel restless and get rid of evil thoughts.

The tenth consolation: be careful not to live too tired

People often lament that life is really tiring. Tiredness means a lot of mental pressure; tiredness means a heavy psychological burden. Tired and not tired are always relative. If you want not to be tired, you must learn to relax. Tiredness will make people fall into a sub-health state for a long time; tiredness will make one's spirits low.

Don't be too tired, learn to free yourself.

Eleventh consolation: everyone has their own way of life

You know your own pain, you understand your sorrow, you feel your own happiness, maybe the hell in your eyes is heaven in the eyes of others, maybe the heaven in your eyes is hell in the eyes of others, life is like this It's funny, don't always suspect that the spring is in others, the key is to adjust your mentality and live your own life well, the most important thing is not to compare.

The Twelfth Consolation: Don't be a slave to desire

People always sigh "moths to the flame", people always ridicule "fish take the bait", people always joke "stuck in the quagmire". But if we think about it carefully, are there not many tragedies of this kind of desire around us? People's hearts are not enough to swallow elephants. Those who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true freedom! We must always be vigilant against bad desires.

The Thirteenth Consolation: To live easily and happily

If you don't blindly compare with others, you will be at ease; if you don't set your life goals too high, you will always be happy; if you don't deliberately pursue perfection, you will stay away from pain; Live freely, don't always find fault, and you will be relaxed.

If you live too tired, you will be miserable, and you will be content and happy!

The Fourteenth Consolation: Only when you like yourself can you embrace life

Blindly arrogant and self-respecting is a life of pride and ignorance, and blindly abandoning oneself is a life of negative pessimism. It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others, and it is more difficult to like yourself than to like others. With a healthy and appropriate self-esteem, you will be extraordinarily strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself because of the temptation of the outside world, don't deny yourself because of temporary setbacks, always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself positively while being optimistic.

The Fifteenth Consolation: See the world with good eyes

When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people observe it, there will be no friends. If you can't tolerate the shortcomings of others everywhere, then everyone will become a bad person, and you will not be able to live in peace. Looking at the world with evil eyes, the world is full of brokenness; looking at the world with good eyes, there is always something lovely in the world. The more you look at the strengths of others, the more you look at them, the cuter they are.

The Sixteenth Consolation: You don’t have to blindly please others

It is impossible and unnecessary to please everyone. To please everyone is tantamount to offending everyone. Deliberately pleasing others will only make them disgusted. To get close to others, you need to be natural, speculative mentality must be changed, and you have time to please , it is better to do things down-to-earth, it is always unreliable to please others, and it is real to work hard on your own.

If you blindly please others, you will lose yourself. Enriching yourself is very important.

Seventeenth consolation: let nature take its course

The raw rice has already been cooked, and it is of no benefit to regret the previous behavior. The only sensible way is how to properly deal with the following things, so as not to make things worse. The spilled water and tin utensils cannot be recovered Yes, the wood that has been carved into a boat cannot be restored to its original state. Knowing these simple principles, you can deal with the remaining problems calmly. Regret does no good, don't make things worse.

The Eighteenth Consolation: Although the material is poor, the mind is not poor

Material poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is psychological poverty. Poverty is often associated with poverty, poor people are often related to short-term ambitions, psychological poverty, rich will also become poor, psychologically rich, poor can also become rich. Poverty and despair will quickly destroy a person's body. Self-confidence and self-improvement, although material poverty is temporary, good days will come soon!

People are poor and ambitious, and they are constantly striving for self-improvement.

The Nineteenth Consolation: Blessings come amidst misfortunes

Don't be overwhelmed by temporary gains and losses, blindly intoxicated by temporary victories, you must be prepared for danger in times of peace, don't take credit for pride, complacent, intoxicated with victory, means to stop and pause, intoxicated with victory, means to lose vigilance, and never bleed on the road of life Slack, victory is just a small signpost. If you want to win the final victory, you have to work hard, work hard, and work hard again.

Don't be confused by the momentary gains, whoever laughs the latest will laugh the happiest.

The twentieth consolation: the important thing is to live life to the fullest

Living every day well is the greatest happiness. Happiness comes from feeling good every day. I always worry about the risks of tomorrow, and I can’t erase the shadow of yesterday. How can today’s life be satisfactory? I always compare those who are incomparable, and always fantasize about those that cannot be realized. How can I be calm today? Anything unrealistic is a source of pain, and the biggest killers of life are sorrow and anxiety.

Suffering stems from not being full, and living a full life will not be cranky.

The twenty-first consolation: life should be joyful

Appropriate recreational activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy can easily turn into harm. When things are extreme, they are reversed, and when numbers are poor, they will change. Generally speaking, the place of pleasure is the place of many diseases. Chess can be a distraction, easy to get angry. Carnival is a superficial life, and the result is often painful regret. Having fun with a degree is an optimistic life. Joy and sorrow are not limited to entertainment, but involve all aspects of life.

Joy and sorrow go hand in hand, and joy is always accompanied by joy.

The twenty-second consolation: Changing the way of life may be happier

When I am extremely unhappy at work and feel surrounded by walls everywhere, is it necessary to change the environment? When I am extremely unhappy in my marriage and always feel like a cold cellar, do I have the courage to break through the siege? When I am used to being resigned, will I stand up and say "no"? People with self-confidence and self-improvement are good at adjusting their living conditions.

Don't live too carelessly, Shu Xin is the spirit of happiness.

The twenty-third consolation: you might as well put aside your troubles for a while

Life is too short, why should I always be unhappy. It is normal to have troubles , but it is not normal to have troubles. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go to the movies, listen to a piece of music, sing a song, make a phone call, enjoy the sunshine ... Let the troubles go to hell and be happy first .

The twenty-fourth consolation: the foundation of happiness lies in oneself

Ordinary people always place the joy of life on external affairs , cling to secular identities, and value status, property, treatment, reputation and other things in every possible way. The foundation of happiness and happiness will also be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is far away from us. Why let others evaluate our happiness and take care of ourselves.

The twenty-fifth consolation: feeling happiness is happiness

Many are deliberately pursuing the so-called happiness; although some have obtained it, the price is extremely huge. Many philosophers have said that happiness is a feeling. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, and is closely related to people's state of mind and mentality. The sages said: The harder it is to get, the deeper the love, to have happiness, it is always difficult to think. It is one's greatest sorrow that one cannot always feel happiness.